No, there's no app for that......

Saturday, April 12, 2014

By Guest Blogger Heather Keenan

In a world where it seems new gadgets are invented weekly to make our daily routines easier I have found, as a mother, that there are just some things in life that still have to be done the old fashioned way, with time and lots of patience. That being said, I have discovered that I do not always excel in the patience department with my adorable, loving, strong willed two-year-old! After a particularly rough day with her I decided to take some time out to reflect on what could be done to make sure that days like those were limited. This is what I came up with.

The main issue at our house as of late is potty training. I'm not a fan of the wording, potty "training", so let's call it potty "time". While she has been using the potty for a few months now, and doing very well, she does, just like two-year-olds do, have the dreaded accident here and there. I can deal with that. Most of the time. Then there are those times where I swear she is just peeing on the floor for fun. That's where my patience issue comes into play.

So, I thought about this issue and finally asked myself, "Why do I feel like this should be easier for her to get?" I mean, let's be honest, switching from diapers to big girl undies is a BIG deal. Why do I feel like my two year old should be able to make this transition seamlessly? Well, maybe not seamlessly, but at least without what I feel are avoidable accidents?

These days it is nothing unusual to see a toddler scrolling away on Mom’s iPhone, iPad, etc. These devices are so easy to use, even a two-year-old can do it! But what we forget is that these gadgets are not targeted for toddlers, they are for us, our guilty pleasures. Perhaps seeing the tiny fingers of my baby navigate from app to app has somehow desensitized me to the fact that my technology savvy toddler is, in fact, still only a TODDLER.

Am I subconsciously feeling like my two year old should have no issues with doing something as simple as potty time because I watch her use my high tech gadgets with such ease? What I feel I am forgetting is that all of this great technology is made to be easy. That is the appeal. However, no matter what easy technology they come out with next some things will still have to be done the tried and true way. With patience, love and time.

So while I might need new rugs in the house by next year and there will be days I want to rip my hair out, I just need to remember that my two-year-old is a two-year-old. Regardless of how technologically advanced she is. Learning to use things that are designed to be easy is just that. Easy. However; learning the basics that are needed to exist in this big world is not so easy. Those basics require me to be a patient teacher.

It is so easy to lose sight of things in this fast paced world and I think that sometimes we just need to remember that there is not an app for everything in life and that we need to try to treasure the good and the rough days that we are lucky enough to get to share with our little ones.

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Anonymous commented on 05-Feb-2012 12:28 AM
One of my kids learned how to use the potty early. But what i didn't count on was the fact that getting the pee in the potty is the easy part. Pulling down pants, then underwear, then sitting all the way on the potty, then getting legs far enough apart
so pee doesn't go everywhere is much harder. Having the awareness that you will have to go EXTRA BADLY during this whole process is the hardest part of all—so hard, that it's just overwhelming to even start the process, I guess. Most two-year-olds can point
a finger, so sure they can use an easy app. After all, it's like dragging a finger through applesauce. But do they have the hand strength to get their chubby fingers around two layers of clothing and pull them all the way down? Well, not at first. Result =
lots of pee on the floor when they insist on, "Me do it!" And forget about tights. They are just a sieve to strain the pee through!
Anonymous commented on 05-Feb-2012 08:03 AM
So true! Great post. For what it is worth...both of my boys (now school age) caught on to the potty quickly when I waited until right around their 3rd birthday. I know girls may be different - but hang in there! She will get it! Everyone thinks its a Google
world out there and they can get what they want with a click. Most things in life just do not work that way.
Kristen Daukas commented on 05-Feb-2012 12:18 PM
My oldest set me up for a lot of frustration when it came to the 2nd.. the 1st one nailed it pretty early (2 1/2 I think) but the 2nd one was lazy about it and it was 4 before she abandoned diapers. I say lazy because she literally went from diapers to
no diapers overnight when she realized that there were no sleepovers until it was done. My MIL swears by potty training in the spring/summer since the kids have less clothing to have to deal with. As the 1st person commented, that piece is quite often a deterrent
to them. Good luck.. she'll get it..
Kathleen commented on 08-Feb-2012 11:14 AM
I totally agree that it can be SO frustrating to deal with the accidents. When my son kept having accidents I did an internet search about it and the majority of what I found said to NOT get upset about it, just clean up and encourage them to make it to
the potty next time. So I did this (through clenched teeth most times). And just the other day i realized he hasn't had an accident in months. I guess they finally will get it no matter what you do. But I will say keeping a cool head is son came to
the front door the other day and fearfully said he accidently peed outside. I remembered to count to 10 and told him to go around to the back door so we could take off his wet stuff in the mudroom. He said "Ok, but please come open the back door for me cause
that is why I peed....I couldn't get the back door open." I have never been so glad I didn't yell at him!

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