By Guest Blogger Kristen Bagwell
I was in a workshop last week for my job, and heard something that I think I've heard before: In order to help your children become better learners, don't tell them they are smart. What? Of course I am totally guilty of doing the wrong thing here; I tell my daughter she is smart all the time. (She's a genius; I can't help it.) However, the speaker said that telling a child he or she is smart can lead to arrogance and complacency, because if a child takes "you're smart" too literally, he won't feel a need to learn.
To be honest, I was not sure I was buying his theory. Surely my parents told me I was smart, and I turned out ok...right? Well, of course I had to go hunting online until I found an article in Parents Magazine on this topic and surprise - it gave advice along the same lines. Studies show that over-praising our children can actually diminish the impact of praise, and prevents kids from becoming satisfied in their own achievements (if they are always doing things expecting praise). So what the *beep* do I do now? Read More