I’ve always considered myself a good friend — someone who connects easily with others. I had plenty of people in my circle… actually, lots of different circles. I thrived on connection and built friendships across various parts of my life. But then came motherhood — and everything shifted.

When my first child was born, there was a natural change in my social life. Did I lose some friends? Sure. But I still had meaningful friendships. That didn’t stop the feelings of isolation and loneliness that crept in, especially during those long days when the baby was the only other person I saw until my husband came home from work. And as a stay-at-home mom in a city where I didn’t know many people, it got even harder.

The few local friends I had weren’t in the same life stage. Nap schedules? Never heard of them. Late-night cocktails and last-minute plans? That was a no-go for me — someone had to be up early with the baby, and spoiler alert: it was me.

When You Hit the “I Need Mom Friends” Moment

Eventually, I realized I needed something to change. I didn’t just want more friends — I needed local friends who understood my current season of motherhood. The kind of people who wouldn’t flinch if I had to cancel a meet-up because the baby skipped a nap, or who’d happily join me for a walk instead of a wine night at 9 PM.

So naturally, I turned to Google and typed in something like how to make mom friends. That’s when I stumbled upon the Peanut app — or as my husband jokingly calls it, “Mom Tinder.” It’s designed specifically to connect moms in the same area looking for friendship and support.

Creating My Profile: Cautious but Curious

I’ll admit — I was skeptical. Creating a profile felt a little weird. I wondered: How much should I share? Should I upload photos of my daughter? Is this even safe? But I also reminded myself: real friendships start with a little bit of vulnerability. I couldn’t meet anyone unless I was willing to step out of my comfort zone.

So, I dove in.

I crafted a light-hearted, honest profile. I let other moms know I could be their “beer buddy,” “outdoorsy pal,” or go-to for a last-minute coffee run (because I’m “powered by caffeine,” obviously). I started “waving” (the app’s version of swiping) at moms who looked like they were in a similar stage of life — and when they waved back, we could start messaging.

No Pressure, Just Possibilities

One of the best things about using the Peanut app to make friends was the lack of pressure. There were no expectations, no awkward first impressions across a crowded room. Just two moms chatting through their phones and seeing where the conversation led.

When I did meet up with someone in person, I had a few rules I stuck to: always meet in public places, and always tell my husband the details. Safety first.

If things clicked, great — we’d set up a playdate, grab coffee, or even go for a walk. If not? No big deal. I’d politely wrap it up with the classic “nap time” excuse and move on. No hard feelings, no awkwardness.

Real Friendships, Right From My Phone

I’ve now met several incredible women through the app — moms who’ve become more than casual acquaintances. I’ve met up with other mamas and their little ones at:

Library storytimes
Coffee shops (bonus points to the ones with toys and games for kids)
Local parks and trails
Playgrounds and community events

Some of these women are in the exact same stage of life as me. Some are a little ahead and offer advice or reassurance. Some are a bit behind, and I’ve had the chance to pay it forward with my own experience. We check in on each other. We vent. We laugh. And we genuinely show up for one another.

If You’re Wondering How to Make Mom Friends — Try This

If you’re feeling isolated in motherhood, or just looking to expand your circle, let me encourage you to try something new. The Peanut app might seem a little out there at first, but it led me to real, lasting friendships — the kind that get it.

You might meet your new bestie. Or someone to swap snacks with at the park. Or someone to text when your toddler melts down in Target and you just need to laugh about it later.

And hey, at the very least, it’s entertaining to swipe for a few minutes during nap time.

By TMoM Team Member Kodia Byers

*Photo credit: Peanut App

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