Moving to a New City with No Friends or Family

Moving to a new city can be an exciting adventure, but for parents raising kids without family nearby, it comes with its unique set of challenges. When you start this journey, creating a support network is a necessity. Here are some invaluable insights to help you navigate parenthood in a new city by creating connections and beating parental burnout.

Tips for Moving to a City with No Friends or Family

Preventing Parental Burnout

Raising kids without the immediate support of family can be emotionally exhausting. Prioritize some time for self-care to prevent parental burnout. Establish a routine that includes “me time” – whether it’s a quiet moment with a book or a walk in one of the Triad’s picturesque parks. I know it’s much easier said than done. I’m still working on getting better at this myself. 

Don’t hesitate to ask for help when needed and consider joining local parenting classes or support groups that align with your interests. Prioritizing your own well-being is crucial when raising children without a nearby support system. Here are some tips to prevent parental burnout:

• Get out of the house when you can. The Triad has so many wonderful options for free activities through the libraries and local parent meet ups. I know it always seems like so much work to get out of the house with kids, but my mental health always seems better when I’m out socializing with the kids than days I’m cooped up at home with them. 
• Schedule regular breaks for yourself. Take time each day to step away from your responsibilities and engage in activities that bring you joy and relaxation. Find a local babysitter or mother’s helper to get a break when needed. Neighbors, Care, local babysitting Facebook groups, preschool teachers, or drop-in daycares are some good options. 
• Seek help when needed. Don’t hesitate to reach out to professionals, such as therapists or counselors, if you’re feeling overwhelmed or struggling to cope.
• Lean on your partner or spouse. Share parenting duties and responsibilities equitably and make time to connect as a couple.

Building a Village

Building your village is essential when you’re miles away from family. Seek out local parenting groups, both online and offline. Attend community events, playdates, and school functions. Establishing connections with fellow parents not only provides emotional support but can also lead to lifelong friendships for both you and your children. The absence of a close-knit family network might make you feel isolated, but it’s an opportunity to build your own village in your new city. Here are some ways to connect with like-minded individuals and foster a sense of community:

• Enroll your children in local schools or extracurricular activities. This will provide them with a chance to make friends and socialize with other kids their age, and you’ll have the opportunity to connect with other parents. Check our directories page to find age-appropriate classes/activities for your child. The YMCA is a great affordable option that allows 2 hours of childcare each day. You need to stay in the building, but even if you don’t want to workout you can hangout in the lobby with a book or your computer.
• Join local parenting groups or online forums. These platforms connect you with parents facing similar challenges and provide a space to exchange advice, share experiences, and build friendships.
• Attend community events and workshops. Immerse yourself in the local culture by attending neighborhood gatherings, festivals, and workshops. You’ll meet new people and discover hidden gems in your new city.
• Make friends with your neighbors. We are so lucky to have the sweetest neighbors that we can reach out to whenever we need help with various things. 
• Create a babysitting co-op. When we lived in Boston, we joined one and it was so good for me. We did 3 days a week for 3 hours a day. I was the sitter one day and the other two days I dropped my daughter off and got a little break. We always had another mom babysitting with us, so even on my babysitting day I got to socialize with other parents.

Flexibility in Work Hours

Raising children without family support can be demanding, especially when juggling work commitments.  If possible, embrace the flexibility that some modern work environments offer. Whether you’re a stay-at-home mom or juggling work commitments, finding a balance is key. Remote work opportunities are increasingly prevalent, allowing you to manage your professional responsibilities while being present for your family.

I worked full-time as a dental hygienist before having our first daughter. After I was fortunate enough to be able to switch to temping in dental offices and doing photography. My husband doesn’t have that flexibility in his job, so it would have been a lot more stressful if we were both working jobs without a flexible schedule and no family to fall back on if needed. 

As you navigate this new chapter in a new city, remember that you’re not alone.  Embrace the challenges, cherish the new connections you make, and prioritize your well-being to create a fulfilling and enriching life for yourself and your children.

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By TMoM Team Member Sarah Marchwiany

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